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Seeming & Being Alpha
The majority of the alpha male books and courses are concerned with how to seem like you are alpha rather than how to actually be alpha. Thus, they speak about
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The Genders
With humans, there are two genders, male and female. There is no in between or scale. There are differences between the male and female in terms of neurology, psychology, personality,
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Gendered Philosophy vs. Gender Neutral Philosophy
Philosophy drives psychology since it provides a map of reality. If you subscribe to a gendered philosophy (map) that includes the reality of the genders, gender archetypes and male/female dynamics,
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Male Archetype vs. Female Archetype
As mentioned in the previous chapter, philosophy drives psychology. As such, we see innate trends in behavior emerge from the male and female human over time. These patterns are known
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The Logic of Gender, Attraction & Love
The Logic of Gender: The human being is either a male heterosexual or a female heterosexual. There is no spectrum or scale of gender. The spectrum is regarding masculinity or femininity,
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Positive Emotionality vs. Negative Emotionality
Positive emotionality (alpha for male, beta for female) vs. Negative emotionality (beta for the male, alpha for the female) Positive emotionality has to do with masculinity for the male and femininity
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Alpha Male vs. Beta Male
Alpha is synonymous with high value for the male. The female is evolutionarily programmed to select, have sex with, build love with, and commit with an alpha male. The reason
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Femininity vs. Feminism
It is crucial for both men and women to be able to make the distinction between femininity and feminism. Though the words sound familiar, femininity and feminism are exact opposites.
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Beta Female vs. Alpha Female
One of the main differentiating qualities of a beta female that is so attractive is empathy and gratefulness. Alpha females are narcissistic and try to impose their will on others
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Where to Find Beta Females?
As a male that wants to be alpha, you are going to be looking for high value females (i.e. beta) rather than just any female. So the natural question becomes: “Where
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High Value & Demonstrating High Value
In order to understand high value, one must first understand reasoning and value as it relates to the sexes. Namely, what is high value for the male and female and
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How to Build Intrinsic Value?
Intrinsic value is a concept that is linked to the human condition with the overriding objective of the human to maximize euphoria at the level of the mind and pleasure
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How to Dance?
Paint an I, W, or U with your hips thrusting to the beat of the music where you hit the points at the top of the letters to the beat
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The Alpha Style
The alpha male’s style should be a combination of timeless and sexy. The timeless portion should be leather shoes, dress pants or dark jeans, dress shirt, and blazer. The sexy
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Male/Female Dynamics
The goal being to find and build true love & marriage with a beta female. True love is a different aim than the alpha female which is looking for pairbonding (dating) rather
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The Ideal Relationship
Male/Female Dynamics The beta female follows in male/female dynamics and the alpha female attempts to lead in male/female dynamics. Remember that the male leading and female following in male/female dynamics
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How to Build True Love?
Being in Love Being in love is the goal of the healthy human. Being in love maximizes euphoria at the level of the mind and pleasure at the level of the
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Male Neurology vs. Female Neurology
The human brain developed in three distinct phases. Each phase corresponds to a physical component of our brain and produces different drives which influences how we experience our mind: Physical
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Demonstrate the Male Archetype to Generate Attraction
Attraction isn’t a choice. It’s hardwired into the brain of the female to be triggered when you display male archetypal behavior. As such, when you display male archetypal behavior, you
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Remain Congruent with the Male Archetype
After we have DHVed and modeled the male archetype, it is important to stay congruent with this archetype as she will periodically test you to see if you are congruence.
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Narcissism vs. Empathy
Narcissism has to do with being in control of your own and others’ shared reality. Empathy means being willing to take part in another’s reality where they have primarily control.
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Gendered Psychology vs. Gender-Neutral Psychology
As mentioned in the previous chapter, philosophy drives psychology. As such, we see innate trends in behavior emerge from the male and female human over time. Masculinity or alpha has
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Gendered Personality vs. Gender-Neutral Personality
Personality Types can be broken down along the lines of masculinity and femininity or narcissism and empathy. A masculine personality is more consistent with narcissism in a healthy way, namely
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Gender Congruence: Beta Testing
In the West especially, looks can be deceiving. A girl that has the appearance of a feminine woman may not be fully congruent, having a gender neutral philosophy, masculine psychology,
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The Attractive Male Personality
The attractive personality is one that creates positive tension within others and then does not break the tension but escalates and moves others towards women towards sex where the tension
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Selection: Male Perspective
For high status males, attraction is a holistic concept incorporating philosophy, psychology, personality, behavior, and appearance. These men (alphas) that can have any woman they want know that beauty is
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Intentionality
Intentionality refers to having clarity regarding whom and what you want in life. What type of relationship do you want? Is it monogamous, open, multiple, or simply dating (pairbonding)? Many
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The Universal Outcome: Male Perspective
While there are preferences as it relates to relationships with women, the universal outcome that men desire for their life is the ability to do same night lays and then
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The Universal Outcome: Female Perspective
Women want a man that is in control of the entire reality that they share including her. She wants a man that she cannot control and thus he must be
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Attraction
Emotional tension = attraction. As such we are going to want to spike emotional tension, maintain it without decreasing it, and then lead the interaction towards sex. Women like to sleep
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Attractiveness as a Holistic Concept
Though men’s brains are hardwired to experience attraction is the presence of mere physical femininity (appearance), men can learn that attractiveness is a female is a holistic concept including internal
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Three Types of Men
There are three types of guys; alpha males, beta males, and jerks. Alpha Males Alpha males are not friends with females, they fuck them. They don’t concern themselves with a woman’s thoughts
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True Love vs. Pairbonding (Dating)
Pairbonding (Dating): Pairbonding arose in the West as a reaction to feminism and women no-longer looking for love nor having love drives. They had career drives instead and were only looking for fun
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Love vs. Oneitis
Oneitis is the total obsession with one girl before you have had sex with her. Oneitis is a beta male belief/behavior. Love is the romantic feelings for a girl that you
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Love & Philosophy
There is philosophy conducive to love and there are philosophies not conducive to love. The philosophy most conducive to love is Male/Female philosophy. Male/Female philosophy teaches that the male should
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Human Development Model
In addition to gender, there is a flow to human development starting after the gender of the human is determined. Namely there is neurological development meaning the brain structure of
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Human Development Testing = Standards
As you can see, the human is much more than their physical appearance. There is a continuum of human development along these lines and some people are more developed and
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Human Development is Different for the Male & Female
As you will see with archetypes in a few chapters, human development is different for the male and female. Male human development is towards masculinity and female human development is
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The Attraction Button
Within the female brain, there is an attraction button that when pushed causes her to experience the positive emotions of attraction which then take over her body and move her
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Attraction is Emotional, Not Logical
The parts of the brain that are responsible for attraction are related to emotion and not logic. This has an important impact on game and our same night lay goal.
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Nice Kills Emotional Tension (Attraction)
Contrary to what our mothers told us and what society tells us, nice simply does not work with women. To an attractive women, a man is just a number within
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Attraction Overrides Human Behavior
When the emotion of attraction is triggered, the emotional part of our brain takes over and overrides our behavior in order to facilitate the creation of healthy and sustainable offspring.
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High Value Male = Knows the Attraction Principle
By demonstrating that the male knows the attraction principle through cocky & teasing communication and behavior, the female makes a holistic categorization of high value regardless of looks, wealth, or
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Attractiveness as a Holistic Concept
Though men’s brains are hardwired to experience attraction is the presence of mere physical femininity (appearance), men can learn that attractiveness is a female is a holistic concept including internal
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Attraction is Driven by Feelings Rather than Appearance
“Women are attracted more by the way you make them feel than to your appearance” ---Xuma The way to make them feel the feelings of attraction is by demonstrating an alpha personality
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The Truth About Sex
Both the male and female want love and sex all the time except that the female needs the male to take responsibility for leading the interaction towards this due to
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Gendered Means Polarity
For something to be gendered means that it is inherent with polarity and having to do with the natural male/female dynamic. That there is emotional tension built into the phenomena
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Equality Isn’t Happiness Inducing
In male/female dynamics, there is always going to be dynamics of dominance vs. submission, leading vs. following, narcissism vs. empathy, masculine role vs. feminine role. There is a natural dynamic
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Gendered Teasing
We are going for gendered teasing or teasing with an inherent male/female dynamic and emotional tension built in. Teasing shows that you do not need her approval and will not
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The Male Archetype is Escalating Always Without Permission
The male archetype, alpha, has a built in dynamic of physical escalation always. This is integrated with the attractive male personality associated with push/pull and touching. The male archetype escalating without
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Dominance vs. Submission
Consistent with the narcissism/empathy dynamic to male/female dynamics is the dominance/submission dynamic to male/female dynamics. Dominance in a male is a turn on, while submission in a male is a
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Dominant Reality
“Whomever has the strongest belief about how reality ‘is’ and can communicate it to others most effectively will bring their reality into being” ---DeAngelo In the dominant reality, your needs come first
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What is an Alpha Male?
Alpha is synonymous with high value for the male. The female is evolutionarily programmed to select, have sex with, build love with, and commit with an alpha male. The reason
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What is a Beta Male?
Beta males on the other hand wait for approval from others in order to pursue their intentionality and do not own their intentionality. They show supplication behavior to males and
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What is an Alpha Female?
One of the main differentiating qualities of a beta female that is so attractive is empathy and gratefulness. Alpha females are narcissistic and try to impose their will on others
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What is a Beta Female?
One of the main differentiating qualities of a beta female that is so attractive is empathy and gratefulness. Alpha females are narcissistic and try to impose their will on others
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What is Game?
Game is combination of two phases that facilitate dating dynamics between a male and a female moving from no relationship to relationship. The two phases are: 1. Pickup game Pickup game is
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What is Pickup?
Game is combination of two phases that facilitate dating dynamics between a male and a female moving from no relationship to relationship. The first phase of game is: 1. Pickup game Pickup
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What is Love?
Game is combination of two phases that facilitate dating dynamics between a male and a female moving from no relationship to relationship. The second phase of game is: 2. Love game Love
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Transaction vs. Investment
We have all heard of the concepts of investment, transaction, equity, and cost from a financial perspective, but what about from a relational perspective? Investment builds equity, lower search costs. Beta female
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What is Ubiquitous Sex?
Ubiquitous sex is phenomenon experienced by the alpha male when sex becomes easily accessible at anytime and is ever present. This phenomenon is strived for by every male and is
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What is a Same Night Lay?
A same night lay is an ideal for the first phase a game, pickup game, where sex is accomplished on the first night of the male and female meeting eachother.
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What is a Pickup Artist?
A pickup artist is a concept associated with a male that focuses exclusively on the mastery of the first phase of game, pickup game. He focuses on optionality rather than
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Alpha Male vs. Pickup Artist
The Alpha Male Alpha is synonymous with high value for the male. The female is evolutionarily programmed to select, have sex with, build love with, and commit with an alpha male.
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What is Dating?
Dating is a stage of a male female interraction within the first phase of game where the interraction has not yet progressed to love game. This means that dating is
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How to Date?
The concept of dating is different for the alpha male and the pickup artist. ‘How to date’ may in fact not be the appropriate question since dating is not the
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Alpha Male Traits
Alpha is synonymous with high value for the male. The female is evolutionarily programmed to select, have sex with, build love with, and commit with an alpha male. The reason
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Sex as an Investment vs Cost
Beta females view sex as an investment (positive sum) where sex yields something greater in the form of love. Alpha females view sex as having costs (zero sum, no winners)